If you need something from somebody, always give that person a way to hand it to you.

Sue Monk Kidd is a bestselling author known for her thoughtful perspective on spirituality and feminism. Her 2001 novel “The Secret Life of Bees” follows 14-year-old Lily as she leaves her abusive home to find healing and a new beginning with a group of beekeeping sisters. The story, set in the racially segregated South of the 1960s, tackles racial inequality and questions of belonging. This quote is one of the many lessons that August, Lily’s chosen mother figure, imparts to the young girl throughout the story. The succinct yet thoughtful advice can apply to any of our needs, whether great or small. The next time we find ourselves reaching out for help or support, we can draw on this wisdom and pause to consider how we can best support the giver. In doing so, we may inspire others to do the same when it comes time for them to request something of us.